Many women find it difficult to say no and too often regret agreeing to something not in their interest or find they’ve taken on more than their fair share.
At a recent workshop I asked a group of women for examples of when they wished they’d said no. This is what they said and I’d be interested to hear what you might relate to?
- Fixing others’ work at the expense of my own
- Getting married again
- Working on a long weekend when I had other plans
- Accepting the assumption that it was my job to keep the work kitchen clean
- Not arguing when someone else said no
- Accepting an outcome without putting my own view forward
- Accepting to backfill a position when I could have declined
- Paying additional rent for the use of appliances
- Agreeing to do more work without asking for more money
This same group of women were given the task of saying no when the next opportunity came up. They reported back that it was surprisingly easy, their bosses or colleagues didn’t bat an eyelid and they felt an enormous burden lift from their shoulders.
Maybe you should try it?