Today is the day to acknowledge and celebrate the achievements, strength and power of women.
It is also a good day to reflect on and claim your own power and strength.
I met with a very senior client today who’d forgotten her strength, power and value because over several years she’s learned to adapt to and even defend a bad work situation.
When I asked her how well she was utilising her skills, experiences and talent she said ‘not at all, but my employer has been very kind to me… they gave me this job and have looked after me well…’
When I asked her how appreciated, valued and fulfilled she felt, her eyes welled up with tears.
Until our conversation she’d failed to notice the impact of what has been an increasingly bad situation.
Her employer did provide her with a job and it was convenient for them that she stay, but the cost to this talented woman has been her self confidence and esteem.
What’s bad for women is bad for everyone. If we’re underutilised, dissatisfied, and not contributing commensurate with our talents, our value is diminished.
From an individual perspective, if the situation continues too long, we get confused and begin to think that we actually don’t have anything to contribute, or there’s something wrong with us. We begin to doubt our selves, feel disempowered and can descend into a depressive state.
From a business perspective, we’re an under-utilised resource and it makes no economic sense to anyone that we stay.
The converse is also true: what’s good for women, is good for everyone. If we’re doing well, achieving great things, feeling fulfilled and valued, it ripples out in our home life, at work and in the contribution we’re making. We feel strong, powerful and capable in the world and it shows in our demeanour, actions and achievement.
We owe it to ourselves, our world and our fore-sisters to make sure we’re utilising our strengths and adding the value we’re capable of. Today, in particular, let’s claim our power, our strengths and achievements and refuse to collude in a dynamic that renders us less visible or powerful than we are.