Fulfilling, satisfying lives are achieved from making conscious decisions to live according to our priorities and values and to do whatever is most important right now.
As I reflect on my too full and busy life I notice how easily it is to succumb to the unnecessary impulse to do too much at once.
Like many women, I have great intentions and an over exaggerated desire to please. Like many, I attempt to live up to the expectations of others, agree to do more than is comfortable and generally over-commit. It’s only when I feel worn out that I begin to pay attention to my needs, priorities and goals and readjust my activity and commitments.
When we don’t pay attention to the stress and toll our hyper-activity is taking on our health, wellbeing or families, it’s easy to become confused. We begin to doubt ourselves, think that we’re not as good as we’d hoped, or that our goals are too ambitious and should be down-graded.
The fact is women are living and working for longer and there is room for us to fit many things into our lives and careers – when the time is right for us.
We can choose when to pursue our career, spend time with our family or take time out. We can learn how to manage the perceptions and assumptions that others may have about our choices. We just forget we can.
When considering how to do it all, resist the unnecessary and onerous impulse to rush to achieve everything quickly or to attempt to do it all at once. A balanced life is achieved over time and is possible if we’re clear, strategic and effective at managing expectations – our own and those of others.