Judith has realised that her executive team’s bad behaviour has nothing to do with her! She’s been unable to get the clarity and guidance from her colleagues to move a corporate initiative forward. Instead she’s met with aggressive questions and constantly changing parameters.
For months she’s struggled with what she could be doing wrong and has assumed that she must somehow be responsible for the logjam.
On Friday she witnessed an embarrassing meeting between her executive sponsor and another senior colleague where he was rude, inarticulate and demanding. She now sees that his behaviour is not professional or helpful and that perhaps he’s been promoted to a position that’s beyond his capability. To continue to seek guidance from him is likely to be an exercise in futility.
She’s decided to take the lead on her project, determine its scope and make recommendations about how to progress without waiting for something he’s unlikely to give her.
She’s relieved and feels empowered. Her confidence has soared as she finally realises that she has better leadership qualities than her boss.
It’s a sad but common experience for women to doubt their own competence before that of a male colleague or boss.