Isolation takes on a whole new meaning when a senior executive used to outperforming her colleagues returns to work on a part time basis after maternity leave.
So used to doing everything well, and meeting her very high standards, her confusion and despair is dangerously bordering depression and fortunately she agreed to see a counsellor.
She cannot bring herself to confide in her friends, family or colleagues because of the irrationally high bar she’s holding for herself. She does not want to be seen by anyone as ‘failing’. At work she’s taking on more than she can reasonably accomplish. At home she cannot imagine leaving the dishes, or going to bed with less than an immaculate house. She does the dishes instead of play with her baby.
Across the road from me lives a woman in court this week defending charges of child neglect. One of the pieces of evidence was a video detailing dirty dishes, mouldy food and dog droppings from a new puppy. Her standards weren’t high, she’s out of work and certainly needs support. She had time to spend with her kids.
Both women need help. Who’s in greater need?